Blue Pill or a Red Pill..

Arrange marriage, It all begins with thoughts of curiosity, excitement, urge to understand the spouse and accepting his family as your own, occupying the mind. For some it is about leaving behind the warmth, shelter and affection provided by parents and siblings to explore the family you have met hardly once or twice.

I was still unsure of importance of marriage, is it a methodology to stick to one person for lifetime irrespective of situations or procedure imposed by society or just an event for family get together where people meet gossip, judge and share their life events. Is it an event for bride and bridegroom or an event to meet all needs of bridegroom's side and take care of friends and relatives. Is it about spending the lifetime savings on a grand event, to look as beautiful as anyone can afford, to live the moment unaware of all new life marriage is leading to. A choice had to be made by everyone involved in this event.

I have moved out of house when I was just 17, to create my own world, to move out of the couch, to make my own mistakes and to create my own success. All I carried was a bag of luggage and faith and belief  my parents had in their brave daughter. Had come long way with all the ups and down,but all I could achieved was an engineering degree and a job to meet my expenses. I was 28, an age  defined to get settled. And by that it means an age to get married and start a new life. Unsure about this definition still moving on with what society expects, here I was to step into all new family I had hardly known. A choice had to be made.

But does my responsibility towards my parents end here? I have always been both son and daughter by supporting financially and emotionally to my parents. Does all these responsibility end with marriage? Being in a very supportive family I have been told it doesn't end. But in reality it turns to be different. I am supposed to consider my husband above all, then my in laws and then comes my parents and brother. Any decision taken will be in conscience with in laws. There is no motive of being wrong or hurting others feeling here, but why is it that a daughter in laws responsibility takes precedence over daughter's?  A choice had to be made.

Have turned 30 now, but same dilemma pursues. Life still offers same questions. Which takes precedence, Why make a choice, Why cant it be simple and straight? Question pops up in every step asking you to make a choice, is it the red pill or blue pill. Difference now is, I have understood any pill is the same. Decision doesn't matter,  What matters is how its been executed. Its always going to be your decision on one side and be it society's or family's or in laws or friends and colleagues on other.
Choosing the path is difficult, but sticking to it and executing it right way is going to be one hell of an experience. Sweet or Bitter just live it is the mantra..